The Reality of Wealth
A rich man may be wise in his own eyes, but a poor man who has discernment sees through him.
-Proverbs 28:11
A faithful man will be richly blessed, but one eager to get rich will not go unpunished.
-Proverbs 28:20
Today, Mitch and I spent a solid chunk of time facing down some financial decisions. I am proud of how we shifted through the details; yet it was challenging. (This is an area of our marriage we poured a lot of work into. In our premarital counseling we talked a lot about handling finances together because we knew we had slightly differing values.) Over the past year and a half, we developed a rhythm with our budget that simply worked. It was rare that we had to change much and when we did, we just tweaked it. Now, we are calculating for a couple months that will be uncharted territory. As we gear up to move across the country as well as manage some unexpected expenses, I noticed that I was worrying more and more about all there was to sort out and how it would affect our savings. Fortunately, in the midst of all of this God stepped in and reminded me of the reality of wealth. As Mitch and I read a chapter in Proverbs this morning I found myself underlining Proverbs 28:11 and 28:20. They made me ponder what is true wealth? What makes a person rich? These verses reminded me that there are numerous forms of wealth that are not monetary.
It is easy to think that “If we just had more money, all of our problems would be fixed.” However, the Bible suggests that wealth can actually be a burden and simpler circumstances a blessing. The rich young ruler that encountered Jesus realized this and left Jesus weighted down by his wealth. It’s evident in Proverbs and Ecclesiastes that even Solomon in all of his splendor saw the emptiness of physical riches. Proverbs highlights in so many ways that if a man has wisdom, he is far better off than a man in possession of great riches. As I read Proverbs 28:20, I could not help but think, God does not promise that a faithful man will be rich, rather that he will be blessed. Blessings are rarely monetary. When I count my blessings, I think of the joy of friends, family, and God's grace, not my bank account. Granted, I do recognize how God provides financially, but that is more of a meeting of needs rather than an abundance of wealth. When I look back on my life, I hope I don’t measure my success or worth in dollars, but rather in relationships and love.
All of that said, it is no secret that financial stress is one of the primary reasons for divorce. As Mitch and I assessed our student loans, mutual funds, and our savings and checking accounts, it became increasingly aware that finances can so easily breed bitterness and feelings of opposing one another if you are not careful. On the flip side, if you and your spouse put forth the effort to communicate clearly and be a united front, money matters can be deal with effectively using the tools of wisdom and love. We have found that creating common goals before we look at the monetary details helps us handle it as a team and seek God’s wisdom throughout the endeavor. Discussing expectations is also crucial to handling money matters in a mutually beneficial way. I also thank God for friends and family that have showed us how to put God first through giving and generosity, and to trust him to provide the rest. Finances can be a blessing or a curse, but they are what you make them.
Questions:
1. How do you and your spouse work through tough financial decisions and situations?
2. How has God blessed your life and marriage in ways that are not money based?
A rich man may be wise in his own eyes, but a poor man who has discernment sees through him.
-Proverbs 28:11
A faithful man will be richly blessed, but one eager to get rich will not go unpunished.
-Proverbs 28:20
Today, Mitch and I spent a solid chunk of time facing down some financial decisions. I am proud of how we shifted through the details; yet it was challenging. (This is an area of our marriage we poured a lot of work into. In our premarital counseling we talked a lot about handling finances together because we knew we had slightly differing values.) Over the past year and a half, we developed a rhythm with our budget that simply worked. It was rare that we had to change much and when we did, we just tweaked it. Now, we are calculating for a couple months that will be uncharted territory. As we gear up to move across the country as well as manage some unexpected expenses, I noticed that I was worrying more and more about all there was to sort out and how it would affect our savings. Fortunately, in the midst of all of this God stepped in and reminded me of the reality of wealth. As Mitch and I read a chapter in Proverbs this morning I found myself underlining Proverbs 28:11 and 28:20. They made me ponder what is true wealth? What makes a person rich? These verses reminded me that there are numerous forms of wealth that are not monetary.
It is easy to think that “If we just had more money, all of our problems would be fixed.” However, the Bible suggests that wealth can actually be a burden and simpler circumstances a blessing. The rich young ruler that encountered Jesus realized this and left Jesus weighted down by his wealth. It’s evident in Proverbs and Ecclesiastes that even Solomon in all of his splendor saw the emptiness of physical riches. Proverbs highlights in so many ways that if a man has wisdom, he is far better off than a man in possession of great riches. As I read Proverbs 28:20, I could not help but think, God does not promise that a faithful man will be rich, rather that he will be blessed. Blessings are rarely monetary. When I count my blessings, I think of the joy of friends, family, and God's grace, not my bank account. Granted, I do recognize how God provides financially, but that is more of a meeting of needs rather than an abundance of wealth. When I look back on my life, I hope I don’t measure my success or worth in dollars, but rather in relationships and love.
All of that said, it is no secret that financial stress is one of the primary reasons for divorce. As Mitch and I assessed our student loans, mutual funds, and our savings and checking accounts, it became increasingly aware that finances can so easily breed bitterness and feelings of opposing one another if you are not careful. On the flip side, if you and your spouse put forth the effort to communicate clearly and be a united front, money matters can be deal with effectively using the tools of wisdom and love. We have found that creating common goals before we look at the monetary details helps us handle it as a team and seek God’s wisdom throughout the endeavor. Discussing expectations is also crucial to handling money matters in a mutually beneficial way. I also thank God for friends and family that have showed us how to put God first through giving and generosity, and to trust him to provide the rest. Finances can be a blessing or a curse, but they are what you make them.
Questions:
1. How do you and your spouse work through tough financial decisions and situations?
2. How has God blessed your life and marriage in ways that are not money based?